Good morning CTown. I was checking posts before I got started this morning and Blair's latest blog hit a note with me. Then of course I read what Kathryn said and I felt more compelled to write. It's hard during the holiday season when you've lost a close loved one. Actually, hard doesn't do the pain any justice. It hurts, point blank. Then when you have birthdays or anniversaries on top of that, you have no choice but to remember the fact that your loved one is no longer with you.

I just wanted to share something that I always do. When it comes time for my parents birthday, instead of being sad all day I still choose to celebrate their birthday. I've have done various things to honor them, sometimes I still bake a cake (doesn't do too good for the waistline since I'm pretty much the only one that eats it :) I would share the other things I do, but they are very personal to me. I suggest that instead of dwelling on the fact that you have a void in your life, do the opposite. Celebrate that they went home to be with the lord. It has helped me to let go. I'm blessed that the church I go to looks at death in a more positive light. They don't deny that death is hard for those left behind, but it views it as a time to celebrate their life. Cause I know that once I pass, I don't want my kids to sit around crying cause I'm not there. I want them to be laughing and telling stories about the dumb or funny things I did (so I'm sure they will have alot to talk about).

Ok, I'm off my soap box for now. Just though I would share. Love you all and I hope you have a blessed week.

Alli